We can't escape the past but we can deal with it the best way we know how. And that, for me, is to remind myself of God's love for us. It starts with forgiveness and then realizing the bigger picture: that you're merely a vessel used by God to love other people here in this life. It's God living in and through you that allows you the measure or scope to love someone sacrificially like Jesus first loved us. Despite any heartbreak, fear, failure or disappointment, he allows us the choice to love people like Jesus did, to love people right where they're at; flaws and all. To accept them, embrace them warmly, like Jesus did. There's healing in all of this: This realizing of the bigger picture. It makes everything else seem so arbitrary and unbecoming of our attention and time. It draws our attention to our Creator, our precious Father, the one who will always fulfill every last facet of our heart's true desires.